Netanyahu may cajole and send his wife, but Trump is no friend

The Israeli prime minister’s interests are served by a US president who will acquiesce to his hard-right government’s every whim, but in Donald Trump he does not have a nodding dog

President Donald Trump and Israel’s Prime Minister Benjamin Netanyahu shake hands after delivering a speech at the Israel Museum in Jerusalem May 2017.
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President Donald Trump and Israel’s Prime Minister Benjamin Netanyahu shake hands after delivering a speech at the Israel Museum in Jerusalem May 2017.

Netanyahu may cajole and send his wife, but Trump is no friend

On 2 December 2024, President-elect Donald Trump sat down for dinner with two members of Israel’s Netanyahu family. Neither were Benjamin, Israel’s prime minister. Instead, Trump dined with Sara, his wife, and Yair, his son.

Their chewing of the cud at Trump’s Mar-a-Lago resort in Florida was one of several discreet engagements between the upcoming Trump administration and the Israeli government, which is eager to understand what Trump has in mind for the Middle East.

After dinner, Sara posted on Instagram that she “spoke to the president about the great suffering our country went through on October 7, and the inhumanity of Hamas terrorists holding our citizens hostage under harsh conditions” and “emphasised the urgent need to act for their release and swift return”.

A few hours later, President Trump posted on his own social network, saying there would be “ALL HELL TO PAY in the Middle East, and for those in charge who perpetrated these atrocities against Humanity”.

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Messages of support for the hostages taken to Gaza during the deadly 7 October 2023 attack on Israel by Hamas.

He said: “Everybody is talking about the hostages who are being held so violently, inhumane and against the will of the entire World”, adding that it was “all talk... no action”. The statement was swiftly welcomed by Benjamin.

The Trump whisperer

During a visit to Florida by Israel’s first couple in July, Trump showed a fondness for Sara, aka the “Trump whisperer”. Last month, as she stepped through the doors, her first words to the president-elect were: “We missed you.” Trump returned the compliment. “As long as I have Sarah, that’s all that matters.”

Although denied, reports suggest that relations between Trump and Benjamin Netanyahu (aka ‘Bibi’) may have soured in recent years. It is known that Trump blamed Netanyahu for pulling Israel out of the operation to kill Iranian general Qasem Soleimani at the last-minute on 3 January 2020, leaving Washington to pull the trigger and take the risks.

Dinner in Florida was one of several discreet engagements… the Israeli government is eager to know what Trump has in mind for the region

The final straw for Trump came when Netanyahu congratulated Joe Biden for winning the 2020 election that Trump was still disputing. Speaking later to respected Israeli journalist Barak Ravid of Axios, Trump accused Netanyahu of disloyalty, signing off with a dismissive "F… him". 

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Donald Trump and Benjamin Netanyahu in the East Room of the White House in Washington, DC, on January 28, 2020.

Enter Sara, who has been described as a "secret weapon". She is far from the softer half of the couple and is known to have influence within the Israeli government, sometimes 'vetting' officials. Her fiery temper is no secret.

That kind of personality may be something Trump can more easily relate to. After all, the president-elect is also known for his strong personality. 

Ensuring interests

Sara's visit appears to have borne fruit, given Trump's subsequent warning to Hamas, but her husband knows that ending Israel's war in Gaza may cost him his far-right coalition allies, who are holding his government together. Any hostage-release deal Trump does therefore cannot remove Israel's "freedom of action" in Gaza. 

This is not dissimilar to its "freedom of action" in Lebanon, where Israel continues to strike targets despite a ceasefire. It claims it has the right to do so, citing a US letter that can be interpreted as such. 

The final straw for Trump was when Netanyahu congratulated Joe Biden for winning the 2020 election that Trump was still disputing

Is a deal in the offing? There are reports that Qatar has resumed its role as mediator and that Israel has sent a new proposal for a ceasefire. Trump's table-thumping may even induce the remnants of Hamas to agree to even more concessions.

Yet in Sara's Instagram post, she ventured beyond the issue of Israeli hostages, saying she discussed with Trump the "strategic importance of Israel's victory in the fight against the axis of evil". The great unsaid here is Iran.

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Antisemitic graffiti in Iran alleging Israeli control of the United States

A reference to this was absent from Trump's statement. Indeed, he will be wary of Netanyahu's constant cajoling. Their contrasting positions and styles, owing not least to Trump's transactional style of diplomacy, mean that US-Israeli relations will need constant oiling if they are to avoid friction.

Yair, whose extreme right-wing views have been well documented, may have helped with that oiling. Judging by his social media posts, he has been heavily influenced by Trump's 'Make America Great Again' (MAGA) philosophy.

Yet regardless of who the Israeli prime minister sends, he will know deep down that while Trump can be an ally, he will by no means be a friend.

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