The philosophy of love: How the complex emotion has been understood throughout history

Love is a thinker’s game, and philosophers have long had it on their minds

Tracing humanity’s understanding of love leads to some fascinating books. From Ancient Greece to the social media age, Al Majalla highlights some of the best.
Alex William
Tracing humanity’s understanding of love leads to some fascinating books. From Ancient Greece to the social media age, Al Majalla highlights some of the best.

The philosophy of love: How the complex emotion has been understood throughout history

Love loomed large across 20th-century culture when the universal and complex emotion was celebrated through various forms of expression — such as literature, cinema, and drama — as an ideal and a prerequisite for happiness.

It was usually portrayed to be compelling, pleasurable, and emotionally resonant. French philosopher Edgar Morin said the era brought the idea of the "beloved" into cultural narratives, intertwining love with human endeavour, artistic and social valour, and even commercial success.

Advertisements, too, used the allure of love, weaving it into the fabric of their appeal. In this way, love transcended mere emotion, morphing into a life philosophy, a moral alternative, and a sophisticated tool for marketing and commodification.

At a time of heightened anxiety in the world, people seek solace in the spirit of love — not least in mid-February, when there is a special day dedicated to romantic connections. It brings the traditional colour of love – deep red – out onto the streets and all over the television screens, giving a festive feeling to late winter.

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French sociologist and philosopher Edgar Morin smiles during an event on the occasion of his 100th birthday at the UNESCO headquarters in Paris, Friday, July 2, 2021.

Love stories

Arab culture has long explored the nuances of romanticism via its storytelling traditions and through poetry and music. This was particularly evident in the second quarter of the 20th century.

Then, there was a move toward expressive and unbridled emotion — free from the bounds of modesty. The spell of love in the Arab world is often associated with iconic figures such as Umm Kulthum, Abdel Halim Hafez, Fayrouz, and Sabah.

The poem Al-Atlal by Ibrahim Naji, celebrated by the Apollo School of Poetry and then set to music by Umm Kulthum, epitomises the Arab romantic ode to love, longing, and the introspective self.

The emotional resonance of lyrical drama brought renowned collaborations, notably between Nizar Qabbani and celebrated vocalists like Abdel Halim Hafez and Najat Al-Saghira.

For the ancient Greeks and their philosophers, love was seen as a divine yearning. Plato's The Symposium introduces us to Eros, the god of love, depicting love as a pursuit of the divine and the good. This conceptualisation of love — as a longing for divinity and virtue — extends through classical literature and philosophy, highlighting the emotional underpinnings of existence.

The Eleatic school of Greek philosophy proposed that the interactions and affinities between atoms—viewed as forms of love—drive the transformations of nature.

Following this lineage, both Plato and Aristotle positioned love as a fundamental longing for the divine. Aristotle further suggested that love's emotive force is the catalyst for the primal movement, underscoring a divine love that elicits human emotional responses.

Romance novels and films

Whatever else it is capable of, love creates a pervasive suspense in human life, sparking a quest to satisfy its demands. The narrative arc this creates is widely familiar; the terms “romantic movies” and “romance novels” resonate across generations.

Love stories often make deep emotional connections of their own with those who follow them. They inspire people to identify with – or aspire to – the protagonists' experiences.

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Jane Austen's 'Pride and Prejudice'

Arabic literature has long orbited around themes of romance. But it was not until the 1980s that specialised treatises on love began to surface, marking a shift towards a scholarly and analytical approach to understanding love.

These works aimed to define the essence of love, diverging from the broader and perhaps more speculative treatments found in traditional Arab heritage.

As well as being a lofty ideal worthy of such study, love is an integral aspect of everyday life, along with its mysteries, secrets and techniques that are worthy of the way in which literature explores, outlines and explains.

Love has transcended its status as a lofty ideal to become an integral aspect of everyday life, replete with mysteries, secrets, and "techniques" that demand exploration and rational explanation.

Here is a look at how that has been done on the Arab cultural stage and what the writers and artists involved found in their works on love.

The poem Al-Atlal by Ibrahim Naji and then set to music by Umm Kulthum, epitomises the Arab romantic ode to love, longing, and the introspective self.

Sadiq Jalal Al-Azm: Love and Platonic Love

In his book Love and Platonic Love, Sadiq Jalal Al-Azm offers a nuanced exploration of romantic relationships through a Freudian lens, highlighting the sexual and sensual underpinnings of love.

Al-Azm observes: "We know that romantic relationships that tend toward continuity and survival – losing their violence and momentum with the passage of time and days, transforming into relationships of another kind that are characterised by constancy, stability, and familiarity between the two parties in love – move away from everything related to intense emotion."

This transformation underscores a pivotal Freudian concept that love — beyond its initial intensity — evolves into a more stable and enduring connection.

However, Al-Azm's discussion transcends Freudian analysis. He critically distinguishes between love and mere lust or sexual desire, arguing that while the latter is fleeting – driven by "a simple chemical and physical reaction" – true love persists as "fixed feelings, a balanced feeling, and a motive for pleasure" even after such desires are fulfilled.

In this way, Al-Azm challenges the reduction of love to physical gratification, positioning it instead as a profound creator of conscience and warmth in relationships.

Al-Azm further delves into love's cultural and behavioural dimensions, examining how time and intensity shape the lovers' experiences. He meticulously analyses "the long time of waiting for the beloved and the stages of strength and intensity in every moment and emotional stage."

Through this lens, he constructs a complex picture of love encompassing the full spectrum from "the intensity of passion and pain to pleasure, comfort, and warmth."

And so Love and Platonic Love remains an authority on the subject since its publication in 1981, offering both modern and classical psychological insights into the emotional fabric of one of humanity's deepest feelings. It offers an accessible and nuanced perspective on the Arab and philosophical myths surrounding love.

In the 1980s, specialised treatises on love began to surface, marking a shift towards a scholarly and analytical approach to understanding love.

Zakaria Ibrahim: The Problem of Love

The Problem of Love is the fifth instalment in Egyptian thinker Zakaria Ibrahim's series on philosophical quandaries. It is a comprehensive examination that frames love as a psychological enigma.

Ibrahim navigates the broad subject matter from the starting point of its philosophical roots in the love of wisdom, traversing the ethics of love and exploring the social expressions of love.

He looks at emotional nuances, including self-love and the philosophical constructs surrounding man's affection for himself, his divine creator, and the intricate longing that propels love beyond its conventional boundaries towards deeper, more complex dimensions.

He covers the dynamics of love in relation to our desire to love others, as well as the introspective journey of that as an extension of love for one's self. He also goes beyond romance, looking at the bonds of friendship and maternal love.

The discourse on friendship is linked to its conceptualisation in Greek philosophy, challenging conventional understandings and the sanctity of emotions within human connections.

The book also introduces readers to unfamiliar forms and facets of love. Ibrahim's work is a deep dive into the social and philosophical constructs of love, broadening the concept far beyond the simplistic notion of romantic love to encompass the broader spectrum of human affection and connection.

Erich Fromm: The Art of Love

Erich Fromm's works — including The Art of Love — are primarily aimed at individuals navigating the complexities of love and seeking a more rational and emotionally intelligent approach to relationships.

Diverging from Freud's sexual theory of love, Fromm proposes a theory anchored in rationality and positive psychology to deepen the understanding of human connections.

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American psychoanalyst and social philosopher Eric Fromm.

He embarks on a comprehensive journey through the spectrum of relationships, starting from the foundational love for oneself in childhood to the expansive love for others and the intricate emotional dynamics within social relationships that root back to the primal love experienced within the familial setting of parents and children.

The book emphasises the importance of positive emotional development. That enables individuals to discern between the negative aspects of desire and yearning and the positive, enduring emotions that foster unity and integration.

Fromm sees love as deliberate and requiring effort, underlining the crucial role of social and personal commitment in nurturing it.

The book's premise is that love is not merely a feeling but a philosophical stance and skill, necessitating a profound comprehension of emotional experiences, psychological depth, and the nuanced perceptions accompanying the act of loving.

Through this lens, Fromm invites readers to view love as a vital component of personal growth and human interaction, offering a transformative framework for engaging with love in its myriad forms.

Through his works – translated into Arabic among other languages – Fromm presents a vision of emotional life as a continuum of feelings and engagements, with love serving as a transformative force for self-improvement, rational behaviour, and the attainment of balanced emotional expressions.

He portrays love as an art, implying that it involves learned mechanisms to counter self-absorption, without which one can experience isolation.

The Art of Love serves as a guide not only to understanding love in its many forms but also to practising it in a way that enriches the individual's life and relationships, fostering healthy emotionalism free from the trappings of detrimental habits.

To Erich Fromm, love is deliberate and requires effort. His book The Art of Love underscores the crucial role of social and personal commitment in nurturing it.

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Sociologist and essayist Zygmunt Bauman.

Zygmunt Bauman: Liquid Love

Liquid Love by Zygmunt Bauman addresses the subject of love in the context of the modern digital age. The book is a seminal contribution to the contemporary debate on love in a screen-based online world.

Bauman argues that modern capitalism has commoditised love, making it more difficult to form a genuine human connection.

Bauman's work serves as a sociological exploration of human relationships and their changing dynamics, focusing on their tangible and intangible aspects.

He discusses the disintegration of traditional family structures and marriage, which have given way to more transient and less committed forms of relationships, leading to a rise in casual sexual encounters as a means for instant gratification.

This has created a move away from the deeper attributes that emotional bonds love can create, such as sacrifice, patience, and endurance.  

Bauman criticises contemporary relationship dynamics as superficial and devoid of solid emotional value, often describing them as ludicrous.

For him, the prevalent social forms of our time lack the depth and commitment needed to form genuine emotional bonds and experience meaningful belonging.

Liquid Love invites readers to reflect on the current state of human emotional connections, encouraging a critical evaluation of how love is understood and practised in the contemporary world and calling for restoring depth and sincerity in our relationships.

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